Happiness equals reality minus expectations!
Recently, I’ve been thinking about the notion of setting goals and then figuring out when I should expect to achieve them. When should I reach those goals? Is my timetable realistic? Am I comparing my and my dog’s efforts to others?
The whole process somehow seemed unfair! It’s unfair to me because of the pressure to perform perfectly—or pretty darn near it—by a set date. And it is unfair to my dog to have set a timetable. What if he’s trying and doesn’t reach it? Am I then disappointed with him? Do I get angry?
Of course not!
My favorite times are between trials—especially when I have nothing scheduled for a long while. Fenway and I get into a groove of simply living together and occasionally practicing what we’ve learned to do because it’s fun.Training—if you can call it that—is just some simple exercises built around meal times or doing a few agility jumps in between playing ball. I suppose we are training but it doesn’t feel that way. There is no pressure about expectations. Goals, if they are set, are on a “it’ll happen when it happens” timetable. We play, train, and play some more. The franticness is gone. We are happy!
I suppose that the REALITY I am experiencing during these times is the pure enjoyment of each moment. There are no visions of shiny rosettes or new title certificates. Fenway and I have collected our fair share of both but it’s taken this long to realize that they can’t compare to the happiness I feel with my dear companion is by my side. Whether it’s playing fetch in a field, drowsing together on a couch or hiking, it’s a wondrous thing to simply be with my dog and watch how he experiences the world. He continually shows me that he is supremely happy just living in the moment. And, if asked if he has any goals, Fenway would no doubt answer, “Dinner!”